Frustrating

[cavyroo]

One thing I thought I would mention. Have any of you out there had someone say...that "they had a 'friend' tell them that you were not very honest and not well to deal with"...

And when you ask them why they said that....or if they could talk to you..or whom it was...they refuse or say ..."just a friend"?

I recently was chit chatting with a gal ..she was inquiring about a baby chin kit I have...she replies back stating just that...
The odd thing is..I have never..had anyone come back to me with negative things. I would hope if someone was not happy with me..they could tell me and we could work it out..thats just me. I am not one to want people angry..

So its frustrating to me that people say those things...but cant back them up or have the 'friend' contact me so I can see whats wrong...URGH.

Has anyone else had this?

[Kmammone]

I haven't had exactly that said, but through the grapevine, have heard of people saying stuff about my chins that is simply untrue. In my case, I know who is saying it, even though, as you said, I'm getting "oh, just somebody". And its purely personal.
Its the petty pet breeder stuff that goes on.
I figure you do what you do, show what you can, and your success will speak for itself eventually.

[chinchewy1]

It is probably all personal. Some other breeder in your area that feels threatened by your success. All you can do is show people your set up and show them how you do business. Be honest about everything and it will show in the long run and back fire on the people telling untrue things about you.

[picasso]

I have had someone tell me they wouldn't do business with me because "they had heard" that I had problems with someone else on the forum. They were really nasty to me and they would never tell me who said that. I've never had problems on this forum with anyone. People have backed out on sales with me and I have sometimes had to back out with them. Nothing personal, it happens. That's the only thing I could think might cause "problems". I have no idea what this person meant because she never clarified herself. She is still on this forum and I just avoid her.

Some people are just nasty. I agree with chinchewy1. Maybe they feel threatened by your business.

BTW, I can vouch for Kindra's chins. They are gorgeous and very healthy!!:hearts:

[NeighbrGrlsPets]

I have haven't had this exact problem, but one farely close to it.

And also have had people take me the wrong way when I say things. Such as, I will say I can not recommend someone because I have not dealt with them before. And they perceive that as don't deal with them.

And have also been told lies about other breeders (glad to find out they weren't true!).

I just try to avoid everything and not even think twice about what everyone says. And dump it in my "brain garbage bin". I do however HATE it when people use the "just someone" routine, or they will spread it around and you confront them about it they say "I don't want to be childish, I got out of high school a long time ago" blah blah blah. Well, ummm... isn't spreading stuff without confronting/asking the person who it's about in regards to the situation childish in itself?

I am in the state directly under you, and have NEVER heard anything that questions your honesty or "dealings" (can't think of the word I wanted).

[NeighbrGrlsPets]

PS.... I'll go up and help ya squish people Misty. lol. As long as I can add a couple people to the squish list.

[Arf2184]

I haven't had it happen, but if it ever does and the person wouldn't give a name so I could try and sort things out, I'd just tell the person they shouldn't be buying an animal from me if they don't feel I'm trustworthy and wish them a nice life and be done with it.

If someone insists on going behind my back and not just coming to me to try and work things out, they're not worth the trouble and are a waste of my time.

[NeighbrGrlsPets]

I'd just tell the person they shouldn't be buying an animal from me if they don't feel I'm trustworthy and wish them a nice life and be done with it.

I feel the same way, but would have a hard time figuring out how to say it. lol.

I think that when you know there are other breeders in your area or around the state that you're in. You should try and get to know them somewhat, where their animals came from, their quality.... That way if you don't have a particular color/quality/sex/age of animal that the person is looking for, you can always try to direct them to someone that may.

Most of the people that I direct to another breeder I sent them to someone in the Eugene, Beaverton, Portland, Hermiston, or Washington state. And now that Tikitorch is a local breeder, when she starts havin' babies (chin babies, lol), I can send them her way too :P.

:smiliedance:

I send most the people that message me Tara's way though (Tara Weinstein in West Linn), she helped me get three chinnies from her when I was going through a rough time. And didn't get annoyed with me. I think two maybe three people have bought from her that I sent to her.. not sure.

I know this is a topic about "bashing", but we also need to remember to praise those that help you. :). And try to help them when they need it, even if they don't ask. :winkgrin: Makes the chinnie world happier. I know I can't find it in my heart to sell an animal at my listed prices to those that have helped me (either animal or life related), I guess its in a round-a-bout way is helping them, and thanking them again (but in my own way) for what they did.

I'll get off my :soapbox: now. :neener:

[NeighbrGrlsPets]

Okay, so my incident close to this has led to exactly this same position. As to which one person AT A SHOW NO LESS, said to of claimed that I'm "known to" blah blah blah. If the show industries are so concerned about people being disgrace upon the show industries, why not DO something about it when people can prove it?

I mean hey, the list of what I've suposively done was actually actually very entertaining to fallow with.

All of which people that I confronted about it generally pointed their fingers in three directions. And the one that I figured to be it, that was getting pointed at more than the other two provided me with evidence that it wasn't in fact them.

All the fingers (except for one) are now being alinged to one specific person (with one specific people spreading it from that person), and it was indeed a shocker! And a little bit suprising, because I had high regards and respect for this person, as do probably many people.

And honestly through this 1.5 year ordeal of trying to track all the messages and she said she said crud I can now honestly whole heartedly say that if they chose to believe the crud that's going around about you from a very limited amount of people then you neither want their business nor their "friendship".

Because that is how all the drama gets started in this "business" because people are too scared to actually CONFRONT people and share pm's and e-mails. It's the only way everyone is going to succeed and weeding out the trash.

But hey, I'm never afraid to go against the grain and speak my mind.

Lesson learned, keep all your conversations, pm's, and e-mails when you speak to someone about something, otherwise people may point the finger at you and you won't have a way to prove that you're not the one that started it.

[chinchewy1]

And its been another day in "AS THE CHIN WORLD TURNS"

It is all drama.. some people just can't go without it in their lives. Like i stated before in this thread.. All you can do is show people how you do business and how you keep your animals and let them think what they will.