How should I go about doing this...XD;

[Eternity]

Okay, how am I supposed to break up with someone who really likes me? O_o He was my friend so I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I sad yes when he asked me. :\ He says he loves me and stuff, so I don't want to hurt him more by being harsh. I've broken up with people bofore and been broken up with, but whatever. I don't want to sound mean or anything, but like I just want to be his friend. He's not really my type. :\ I feel really mean and greedy saying this but I kinda want to go out with someone who I like and someone new. X___x I'm going into 9th this year and I'm 13, we have been going out scence 6th grade I think. Even after like 2 years I can't seem to break it to him. And to worsen everything, evenone is like "Omg your two are like the cutest couple in the whole school!" and we got voted as the "most likely to marry sweathearts" and "unbreakable couple" of the year because it's like a contest thing for going into freashman year. :\ I never have had guy problems till now. XD Help please? :P (Omgee what mess have I gotten myself into now lol! Thats all that running through my head. >.>)

~<3 Grace~

[ChinnyLover]

If I were you, I would just tell him the truth. Don't mention that you only said yes because you felt bad or did it out of pity or anything like that. Just tell him that over time, you've realized he's not your type and you'd much prefer to be friends with him rather than anything else. And, for future reference, never say yes if you don't mean it. Because even though you may feel bad for saying no at the time, that no is quick and then it's over. If you do what you did this time and say yes, you will hurt them more in the long run because they will think that you like them when you don't. You're just leading him to believe in something that isn't there and never was. Just thought I'd let you know so you don't get yourself in another situation like this one. Hope it all turns out well!

[x_maddy]

It`s not fair to you to keep going out with someone you don`t like. Just talk to him. He`ll take it hard at first, but he will get over it eventually. It can be really hard. But speaking from experience, if you follow your heart, everything turns out in the end.

[piggylover101]

I would just tell him you just want to be friends, I think telling him he isn't your type is kinda mean. Then he might think you date people only because of the way they look. I hope you can work it out, however just realize you might not be friends afterwards, it's hard.

I had a similar situation with a guy. I have known him for years, but we got really really close, we were best friends for like a year. We talked about almost everything, it was really awesome to have such a close friend, his friendship was extremely important to me. I had always had liked him a tiny more than a friend, but I didn't want to ruin our friendship so I never attempted to have any thing other than a friendship with him. But then he ended up liking me as more than a friend, and kept asking me out (I guess he mistaked being friendly as flirting or something :dunno: , it was really annoying). I originally said no, but then finally agreed, for the wrong reasons, I did like him, but I was more just sick of being asked out :| (he was extremely persistant, I know it doesn't justify what I did, but he was getting annoying lol). Anyways we went out for quite a while, he took it really seriously but I liked it better when we were friends. So I broke up with him (it was extremely hard for me to do because I knew no matter how I went about it, I was going to hurt him). He was upset/sad etc. I had hurt him, he said I led him on etc, I felt really bad. In the end it was too hard for him to be friends with me any more, and I felt horrible for what I did. We don't talk at all any more, it's really rather sad. When I look back on it, it's something I definitely regret. :(

Anyways, I hope everything work out. :)

[ChinnyLover]

piggylover, just because you say he's not your type doesn't mean that you judge people by the way they look. Saying he's not your type just means that you don't have that kind of connection with him. He may be someone you just consider a friend or someone you may not get along with at all, etc. I, for example, am very picky when it comes to going out with someone. I get along with a lot of guys, but about 99.9% of them are guys that I would never even consider going out with, either because I just don't feel that kind of connection with them or they live a completely different lifestyle that I would not be able to handle, etc. But I do have to agree with you about being friends afterward, the longer you go out with a guy, the harder it is to remain friends after you break up. I found it difficult myself, mostly because after you go out with someone, you just don't know how to act around them and would rather just avoid talking to them altogether. Plus, if you really love the person, you may not want to talk to them because of the pain it brings knowing that you're not with them. And most of the time, you don't want to see or hear or know when they're with someone else, so you just totally ignore them and try not to think about them. I'm sorry that you find yourself in this kind of situation, Eternity, but I would break it off now before he grows even more in love with you, because waiting will hurt him even more. Good luck!

[piggylover101]

I am perfectly aware that saying he/she isn't your type doesn't always mean you are judging people by how they look. However her boyfriend (or rather ex boyfriend to be) *may* take it as she is judging people by how they look unless she explained it to him. Just what I have noticed from experience. Anyways that's what I was trying to say earlier, I guess I didn't explain correctly.

[ChinnyLover]

Okay, I just wanted to clear that up, I'm sorry if I sounded kinda harsh. Best of luck Eternity, let us know what you do and how it goes!

[Sarah Marie]

I have to agree with what everyone else said, tell him the truth. People change, you change (especially in middle school, high school and college), and there isn't much you can do about it. He simply is no longer your type and you deserve to have someone you're really into and he deserves to have someone who is really into him.

Honestly I would not come out and say "I just want to be friends" if you two are meant to be friends, you will be and there is no real need to say it. If he asks you if you still want to be his friend, then say what you feel. I think a lot of times people use the "I want to be friends" statements as a false buffer to make it not seem quite so bad. Personally I would interpret "I just want to be friends" (or similar statement) as “Hey I still want to keep you around if/when I want you, but I'd rather go out with other people." Just remember it will work out if it is meant to.

Don't worry about the contest things, and if anyone asks or bothers you about it just reply with a simple "It didn't work out" because one: it is the truth and two: it really isn't any of their business who you're going out with, regardless of previous titles.

Just remember you're 13, you're young, you shouldn't feel the need to tie yourself down to one guy(2-3 years is a long time, especially for middle school and high school, even college), go out and have fun with your friends, group date, see who all is out there(you'll never know until you see ALL your options:))

Good luck:)

[Eternity]

Kay, well thanks guys. ^^ I felt kinda stupid asking it, but I guess it gave me confidence... I'm telling him tomorrow. Hope he won't take it hard. >__<

[Tinsil]

hayy good luck i hope it worked out. i have a situation kinda like this, i don't like the guy there is no chemistry - and he's not very bright :S anyway i can't get ahold of him though.. so i'm technically going out with a guy that doesn't exist. i havn't talked to him in over a week and i have no way of getting ahold of him. it's annoying i have to stay with somebody for a reason like this.. *sigh* lol. oh well..