Being Nice?

[JoElizabeth]

Ok guys. I thought I would just vent a little, and get yalls opinion...
Today we got home from a field trip and were coming into town from the interstate ramp, and some kids saw a hobo on the side of the street, and decided to call him names and be mean. Well, I dont know about you, but that really eats me. I hate people being mean to any one under-privilaged, or in a mental state other than normal. It happend one of my friends was the starter of the rudeness, and so I talked to him about it, and he was just being a jerk, so yeah. Well, I wanted to give him a few bucks, a little food, and a drink. My mom wouldnt let me. I understand her wanting to protect me, but I feel it would be okay, since thats a very safe part of my town, and my town isnt even a non-safe town. Nothing happens here. And its bright day-light. Im kinda upset that I am never allowed to help anyone here. We dont have a shelter or anything, we are a relitively small town, and all that. Theres no way I can help anyone here, and every time I see a homeless person, I just want them to know that they arent worthless, buy them some food, and go about my way. What do u think? Am I stupid for being upset?

[Chinchillagrl06]

It bothers me too when people are rude to the homeless. I saw a homeless man counting his change at McDonalds once. He only had enough for a small coffee, so when I ordered my breakfast I ordered double and gave him a sandwich and a couple hashbrowns. He just said thank you and looked really greatful. I made sure I gave him the meal discreatly too, so I wouldn't embarrass him. I felt really good about myself for the rest of the day. :)

[meagan]

i live in a big city and there are a lot of homeless people.. i always get asked for spare change, but since i usually dont carry cash i dont have much to offer. a couple times when they have asked me for change for food, i go down to a mcdonalds or soda shop and buy them a lunch.. it seems kind of weird, but if they really needed money for food (not alcohol of drugs), they are super grateful and you feel so good about yourself afterwards.

its totally justified that you feel upset. homeless people are people too. Wouldn't you want to be treated nicely if you were in their shoes?

[Rutabega2705]

Hunny, you are not being rediculous in anyway at all. There is no need for people being so rude, especially when it involves someone less fortunate than them. I'm sorry that you weren't alowed to help. I'm glad that you talked to your friend, and stood up for the homeless person, thats very kind of you.

[LunaMidnight]

Just an hour ago a lady came to my door asking for spare pop bottles and cans. She said she needed extra cash and even though I know people (my friends mainly) will say, "oh ya, for drugs/alcohol," I understood though. I have 38 cents in my bank account at the moment and am trying to find a job with no luck (2 interviews but no one ever calls back) even though I've practically killed my printer sending out 10000 resumes. It's crappy around here for that.

[Karma1223]

I totally understand how you feel! I hate seeing people being rude/mean to others.

[Eternity]

I totally understand too! There is one man that stands with a sign and said Will Work For Food.

I started crying and when I asked my mom if I could give him the 20 I had in my pocket and a box of cereal in the back from shopping. she said no. She said he would do something to me. Okay seriously, its by a big street. EVERYONE WOULD BE WATCHING. =\ I cry every time I see him, hes there sometimes even when its snowing. ;_;

[chemas]

I understand as I was leaving Walmart one day and I saw a woman holding a sign up that said "Will work for money" well I didn't have any money at all- had to buy groceries with food stamps, so I couldn't give her any. I felt really bad driving on, I should have let her get some groceries off my card, but I will if I see her again.

[wbarnhill]

I think the reason is that there are many people who will use the underprivileged to create a character to get money out of people. For instance... I was walking from books-a-million one day and a woman comes up to me with her child and asks for some money for gas, because her car was out of gas and she spent the last of it on groceries for her kids. I was going to give her some, but I don't carry cash on me that often. Well I apologize, and get into my car, and I see her walk up to another couple nearby who hands her several bills. I'm glad for a moment, but then she walks across the parking lot to ANOTHER car, and now I'm thinking "how long has she been looking for money?" So I walk over and ask her in front of the person she's asking for money where her car is, and she says something like "on the other side of the lot". Well I ask her how much the couple gave her and she says "They didn't give me anything". At this point I knew exactly what she was doing, told the individuals in that car to not give her any money, and called the city police. They showed up and she ended up having about 100$ on her. Anyway, the moral of the story is, because of people like her, I can't justify to myself giving money to someone. If they're hungry, I'll gladly buy them some food. If they need gas, I'll gladly help them get to a gas station and get some gas. There are just too many people who feed off of generosity.

[basketball_Qt]

It Bothers me when anyone is rude to anyone.. I hate people being mean and honestly there is no point in it.. I usually go to mc donalds and get them a happy meal when I see one and they act really thankful :) My mom totally supports it.